Keeley Rankin, Sex Coach and Relationship Therapist
Keeley received her Master's in counseling psychology in 2010 from John F. Kennedy University in Northern California.
She is a certified Somatic Method practitioner, which is a relational and experiential body-based therapy. She was also trained in Hakomi therapy, a somatic and mindfulness-based therapy, and recreation of the self (R-CS), a system for re-empowering our ability to live from an undivided state of selfhood in relationship with others.
She is a certified queer conscious educator and a certified sexological bodyworker since 2009. She has assisted world-renowned psychotherapist John Welwood.
Hello Keeley, tell us about yourself
Hi! I am Keeley - a San Francisco based Sex and Relationship Coach. I call myself a pleasure advocate and I deeply care about helping folks connect to there erotic bodies. I have my master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and have various trainings in somatic and mindfulness-based psychotherapeutic modalities.
Talking about sex has always been easy for me and sexuality has always fascinated me. I was not raised in a home where my folks openly or comfortably discussed sex. Yet, for some reason, for as long as I can remember, discussing sexuality and pleasure rolled easily off my tongue.
I also grew up with a passion for riding horses. This has given me two advantages in life: the ability to understand the unspoken language of the body and the ability to use the body as a tool to communicate. This innate intelligence carries over into my work with clients. Bridging my ease at discussing vulnerable topics and being able to read the body’s unspoken language.
I am an animal lover (recently adopted a rescue puppy), a through trekker (favorite trek so far has been Manalsu in Nepal), and a COVID Newlywed.
Why did you choose to be a sex therapist?
I have always been fascinated by romance, marriage, intimacy, dating, infidelity, sex, body image, and love.
Why is it that some people thrive in eroticism and while others fail to connect? What is ‘real’ love? What does it mean to share your body with someone? How do romantic relationships change over time?
I have come to understand that one of the deepest and most vulnerable experiences of being human is sharing ourselves fully with another – naked, defenseless, and open both physically and emotionally. Being able to express our erotic energy and desires is to be fully alive.
What are the most memorable moments of your work experience?
This is tough to answer because there are so many.
The most rewarding theme is when people are able to open themselves to erotic pleasure will full, wild, soul-cleansing abandonment. I believe that when people have a truly satisfying sex life they are much more well-adjusted members of society and lead more meaning-filled lives.
Do you have any advice to us women?
Stop comparing yourself to other women. Focus on slowing down and learn about your pleasures, needs, wants and desires. While the this second task may not feel super easy - the payoff is totally worth it.